No, not the four-letter kind! I'm referring to the kind that sinks into your head and stays there, disrupting your future. 

For example, language like "I can't afford it" is detrimental to your psyche. Replace those depressing words with "It's not in my budget right now." Doesn't that sound better? Doesn't that feel better? 

"If" can be a dangerous word when it pertains to hopes and dreams. Think about how these sentences feel to you.

      "If I lose ten pounds, I could wear that dress."

      "If I got a raise, I would order the new couch."

      "If my children would be responsible for their own things, I'd have more time for me."

Now replace "if" with "when," and see how these sentences sound.

      "When I lose ten pounds, I will wear that dress."

      "When I get a raise, I will order the new couch."

      "When my children are responsible for their own things, I'll have more time for me."

Use "when" instead of "if," and you begin to feel a sense of hope, possibility, and even expectation. Now you can create a plan to make it happen. Replacing "if" with "when" opens the mind to "how" you'll make it real.

Consider "why" and its impact on you.

      "Why can't I get this right?"

      "Why does she get the guy and I don't?"

      "Why can't I cook like my mother?"

Now replace "why" with "how" and see the difference.

      "How can I get this right?"

      "How does she get the guy and I don't?"

      "How can I cook like my mother?"

When you use the "why" word, your brain answers with all the reasons you can't; all possibilities are lost. However, once you ask yourself a "how" question, your brain kicks into gear with possibilities and solutions. You have the power within to reach what you want in life. You simply have to ask "how," so you can generate the answer.

Think about what you are saying today. Do you find yourself using language that doesn't feel good? "I can't afford it" . . . "I'm not good enough" . . . "I'll never figure out how to do that" . . . "Why can't I finish this?"

Whenever what you are about to say doesn't benefit you or others, dismiss the statement. Don't say it. Instead, think about the power behind the words you are using. Do they lift you up, or bring you down? When you use words that lift you up, you uplift others as well.

So watch your language! You'll find your life is better than you thought.